Body dating language nonverbal
Find out how a person usually comports themselves and if possible in more than one situation.
Experts agree that reading body language requires a comparison between relaxed body language and body language that arises during emotional provocation. “Baselining” is probably one of the most important and often overlooked aspects of reading body language.
This person might be lying in a worst case, and at best, nervous. A lack of congruence can lead us down the wrong path or when we see inconsistency can tip the body language reader off on a ruse. Mirroring can be matched to create perfect flow through changing dialect, speech rate or tempo, pitch, tonality, voice inflection, use of words, and even accent.
The process by which this happens is called “communication accommodation theory.” Mirroring can cut so deep that breathing, blinking, and even our heart rates can beat in unison.
Without catching the changes, body language loses its ability to indicate exactly what is going on. Next try to find at least four cues that stand out in a “cue cluster.” Look for the big stuff first like arm and leg crossing (closed body) or uncrossed (dominant and open), head tilts (interest), head down (judgment), head back (disapproval), head even (contemplating) palm up (offering/honest) palm down (authoritative), eye contact (strong or fleeting), ventral orientation (toward-liking, distancing-disliking/disinterest), proximity of body as well, such as arms and legs (close-liking, far-disliking), type of smile (even-honest, uneven-feigned/stressed), body size, large (dominant/open), small submissive/closed), touching (liking/influencing), any forms of clenching, pinching or scratching (discomfort/pacifying), use of barriers in blocking (discomfort/shielding), lip compression or biting (negative thoughts). “The rule of four”, and it’s an important one, says that you can’t attach meaning to a single gesture and accurately judge a person – you need more than one, preferably at least four.
The rule of four calls on us to read cues alongside other cues commonly referred to as “cue clusters” before drawing conclusions.
When that guy in the bar starts balling his fists, well, that’s another story! “Context” is an important factor to consider while reading people.
The feet, unlike the hands, carried out more traditional tasks like escaping predators, avoiding hot sand or coals from the fire, leaping from slithering snakes or poisonous spiders, or navigating rough rocking river bottoms.