Dating for one year
By five years in, most couples only had a 20 percent breakup rate, and by 10, they come down even more.
So why is it that people are so prone to splits in the beginning?
“Between the five-to-six-month mark, people are typically really trying to decipher their feelings, and by the seventh-to-ninth-month mark, they are trying to determine if they really want to be with you.”Coming up on a year, stuff gets real.
“This point is really critical because you will definitely see this person’s character,” she says.
“This typically happens after the first or second year mark."“After a year or so, the new relationship euphoria begins to wear off, and reality sets in,” Tina B. Romance, psychotherapist and author of How to Be Happy Partners: Working it out Together, tells Bustle.
“Both partners relax, and stop being on their best behavior.” But this isn’t all good.
“The first year is when you and your partner are getting to know each other's personalities and determining whether you see a future with them or not.” Naturally, there will be some push and pull here.
“The next stage is disillusionment, where you see who they really are and not your fantasy, which is why people break up in the three-to-nine-month window.”And then, of course, there’s the final stage: “There's a power struggle or conflict,” she says.