Dating in sobriety
And dating in sobriety is even harder – but many have done it, and many will continue to walk through the fear to find their potential partner.
No matter if we begin by swiping left or right on a dating app or try meeting someone at a social function – the fear of vulnerability and rejection can keep us stuck.
Now my recovery is something that brings me joy, rather than a dark secret I hide. A line that worked well for me when someone would ask why I didn’t drink was, “I used to drink, and it was a lot of fun, but then it wasn’t fun anymore so I stopped.” Simple, honest, and it still maintained my privacy. Talk with your sponsor, your sober friends, and recovery professionals.
Seriously, a hot date is NOT worth losing your cool or your sobriety over.
When you are ready, choose your dates and locations wisely. Try meeting for a cup tea in the evening at a coffee shop with a lovely outdoor patio. You get to make choices you are proud of and spend time with people where mutual respect is involved.
I was in some crazy relationships because I didn’t think I deserved better, or because the person was willing to enable my alcoholic ways.
So Love in Recovery is a place where people can find supportive friendships that may potentially lead to more.
No more reason to remain anonymous in your sobriety when you find your soulmate and love of your life!
Fortunately, the process of recovery is all about learning and change.