Dating someone autistic
Between decoding texts, figuring out if the person you’re into really likes you back or is just a flirt, and if the date is going to end with a kiss or an awkward hug — the subtleties are endless.
And that’s on top of finding someone of substance who is actually worth your time in the first place.
Autism is a brain disorder that affects about one in 88 young people in the U. and its symptoms vary greatly from person to person.
Even the above examples aren’t things everyone on the spectrum experiences.
“It’s a spectrum.”The anxiety of “coming out with autism” is a big reason why Olivia Cantu started an online dating website called Spectrum Singles two years ago when she was 18.
“[Going on the site] eliminates that fear completely,” she says.
“I like categorizations, so not knowing what a relationship is — what we are — is not a good idea.”Someone who is autistic might have a different idea of a perfect date than someone who isn't, too.
Because many people on the spectrum are super sensitive to light and sound, a trip to the food court and movies can lead to a sensory-overload disaster.“Somewhere like Mc Donalds, it’s loud and the smells can be overwhelming, and all the people going in and out is a lot,” says Linda. It’s really frustrating when I’m there trying to spend time with the person I want to be with and just focus on them.” Her advice: Pick somewhere with dim lighting that’s quiet. “With a group of people, I can’t easily establish a rapport with everyone because there is so much going on,” Tina says. ”Olivia, the Spectrum Singles founder, has been dating a non-autistic person for two years and says her discomfort for physical affection was an obstacle for them when they started dating.