Handle intimidating people
Dealing with difficult coworkers, bosses, customers, clients, and friends is a skill worth perfecting.
Dealing with difficult situations at work is challenging, yet rewarding.
Being cognizant of control tactics used by challenging people can make the difference between awareness versus ignorance, and mastery versus victimhood.
Below is a list of fifteen controlling tactics difficult people often use to maneuver others into positions of disadvantage, excerpted from my book (click on title): “How to Successfully Handle Aggressive, Intimidating, and Controlling People”.
Examples can include any variety of comments ranging from your appearance, to your older model smart phone, to your background and credentials, to the fact that you walked in two minutes late and out of breath.
By making you look bad, and getting you to feel bad, the aggressor hopes to impose psychological superiority over you. Constantly Judge and Criticize You to Make You Feel Inadequate Distinct from the previous behavior where negative humor is used as a cover, here the aggressor outright picks on you.
— Paramhansa Yogananda Most of us come across difficult personalities at some points in our lives.
These individuals may exist in our personal or professional environment.
By applying tension and control onto you, it is hoped that you will “crack” and give in to the aggressor’s demands. Giving You Multiple and Excessive Directives to Control You Behaviorally and Psychologically This is often used by law enforcement to control someone’s behavior.You only have the power to ignore or deflect or be non-reactive to power-and-control manipulations if you have nothing to lose: if you're willing to walk away from the potential deal or the relationship, with little if any harm to you, then you have leveled the playing field.In every workplace, you will have difficult coworkers.In addition, an aggressor may want to control the length of a meeting to her advantage, making it either excessively long to wear you down, or abruptly short to cut you off. Making You Wait Someone who deliberately makes you wait before you get to see him or her is utilizing a classic form of power play.
The message here is that his time is more important than yours, and by inference he’s more important than you. Power Differential in Furniture Set-Up This usually happens when you enter someone’s deliberately set-up power office, where she or he sits in a larger, adjustable “executive” chair, while you are given a smaller and sometimes unadjustable seat.
The consequences may include (and are not limited) to those that are emotional, social, psychological, physical, professional, informational, financial, and legal. is available as a presenter, workshop facilitator, and private coach. I always assumed the brought them from home, as no company in their right mind would justify buying a chair that looked like a swiveling emperor throne.