Woman dating man as old as her son
And, although we've been together for more than a year and a half, live together, and are planning a future with one another, individuals still find it difficult to understand why we have chosen each other.
My age has been a huge barrier for some to open their minds and hearts and get to know me simply as the person whom he loves.
He is the kindest, most compassionate, funniest individual I have ever encountered.
Those are the times when I want to hug him tighter, tell him I love him, and just show the world that this can and will be a love for as long as we are lucky enough to have each other.4.
In reality, strangers hardly know there is much of an age difference between us, and they're almost certainly unaware that the difference is about 12.5 years — an age gap that is taboo in our culture.
Before I realized the depth of others' judgments about our “taboo” relationship, I first had to get over my own insecurities about being with someone over a decade younger.
Moreover, I often want to hide away — to avoid family functions, social outings, and not have to face people eye to eye.
But I know that hiding, crying and shouting does no good; I must show up as myself, courageously and yet graciously, and be the best person I can be.
It amazes me that even as the world seems to be progressing and we're now openly embracing many life choices, most of us still aren't comfortable with age differences in relationships.
No one can predict what lies ahead, and no one knows if they will be with someone forever, however long “forever” may be.2.
I believe that this is someone else’s issue and not my own.
For those of you reading: the next time you begin to judge a relationship that looks “different” because of age, race, disability, or something else, catch yourself and stop.
Be a catalyst for change: start with yourself and aid others in shedding stereotypes.I went through all of the issues in my head thinking, Sometimes, I'd actually pick fights out of insecurity, just so I could utter the lines, “Maybe you'd be happier with someone who for certain has all of her eggs,” or, “Perhaps, you want someone who isn’t on a timeline of starting a family.” I am not a “cougar," the horrible label given to women who date younger men.